Modern Dating Insights for NYT Crowdsourced Rules Feature

Three decades ago, the best-selling book “The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right” set rigid and outdated dating standards mainly for heterosexual women. Today, with modern dating dramatically changed by technology and shifting social norms, The New York Times is seeking to create a new, crowdsourced list of dating rules reflecting current experiences and practices. So, tell us, what are your dating rules? What surprising strategies do you use to narrow the field? What are your red, green or yellow flags? Do you have any special deal breakers or methods of seduction? How do you decide who initiates, who pays for what, how honest to be and when? What are your rules for sex? What is your texting etiquette? When you don’t see a future, do you ghost, send a cut-and-paste note, spend hours composing a heartfelt explanation? Is there a principle you live by when you want a future with someone?