Adults Single for Years - Attending Friend's Second Wedding

Do you have to go to a friend’s second wedding if you’re in pain over years of being single and weddings leave you gutted? We often treat presence as a binary: you were there, or you weren’t. But relationships are more nuanced than attendance. Sometimes the most meaningful way to honor someone is not to force yourself into a version of support that leaves you resentful, depleted, or emotionally absent. A letter can be presence. A private celebration can be presence. An honest conversation can be presence. The question is not only “Can I show up?” It’s: “What kind of presence can I offer genuinely?” Read this week’s advice in The New York Times: bit.ly/4ws3pv2 Submit your question:[email redacted] Subscribe to the column: bit.ly/4mZtJaN