Partners of Adults Refusing Healthcare - Safety & Financial Planning

In this week’s #AskTheTherapist in The New York Times, a reader’s husband refuses to see a doctor or dentist—even after this resulted in serious illness and hospitalizations. Nor will he share in saving for their retirement. But, she says, “He’s a great person on all other fronts.” My response? “This isn’t a side issue to ‘all other fronts.’ It’s the main front. It’s a bit like saying your meal is delicious, except for the part with the salmonella. The food might be appealing, but it isn’t safe. Safety isn’t a bonus feature in a long-term partnership. It’s THE FOUNDATION. And when that foundation is compromised, the question isn’t how good the rest of the meal tastes. The question is: Can you live on it?” In the column, I share how to shift from nagging him to practical steps she can take to protect herself if her husband won’t engage. Have you ever felt your partner’s choices turning you into the only “adult” in the room”? 🔗 Read my advice: bit.ly/4bYJ3Bo ✉️ Submit your question: [email redacted] 🔔 Subscribe: bit.ly/4mZtJaN